My next article in our local Toastmasters magazine, Voices, talks about finding your equilibrium in these uncertain times. The article starts on page 54. Enjoy!
Earlier this year I was asked by a friend if I would be willing to write a column for our local Toastmasters magazine called Voices. At the time I had been considering going back to work on my blog and writing articles for different magazines, including The New York Times and The Atlantic Magazine. I said yes to the offer, and thus my column, “Quarter Note,” came to be. This column examines different ways in which Toastmasters can learn and grow in their fields while also providing some personal commentary on my own experiences as a public speaker and leader. The first article is entitled “From the Big Top to a (Slightly) Smaller Stage” and profiles a Toastmaster by the name of Cory Sylvester who was a clown in Cirque de Soleil before retiring with his family to live here in Portland. The article starts on page 48 of Voices. I hope you enjoy it.
It really pays to read your email on a regular basis. Sometimes I forget that, however, and end up with some weird but interesting results.
Back in 2020, we’d been told that we would be producing a Broadway-themed show in which people would be invited to create their own solo tracks for the concert. These would in turn be put together to form one or two concerts, depending on how many tracks were received as well as which would be repeated over the course of two nights. In January 2021, it was decided that the Broadway show would be shelved. In its place we would have two virtual concerts, a Portland Gay Men’s Chorus retrospective concert in March as well as a separate show for our subgroup Cascade in April, which had already been planned.
Of course, I’d either conveniently forgotten about this second email or had misplaced it. I’d mistakenly thought we were still doing the Broadway show and was madly trying to figure out which song to best solo with. Making this more complicated for me was that even though we’d been told quite plainly that more upbeat fare would be favored over ballads, and in fact only one ballad would be allowed per evening of the show, the only song that I could think of that had gotten me through most of the pandemic that I really wanted to use was a Stephen Sondheim piece from Into the Woods entitled, “No One Is Alone.”
In the end, with the deadline approaching for the (now nonexistent) concert audition for our Broadway concert, I performed “No One Is Alone” on nothing more than my cell phone. Very conveniently and ironically, of course, I live at home alone. I did several takes before deciding on the best one to send in, went to the link for the solos, and tried to send my piece in.
Nothing happened.
I did this several times, and still no response. In desperation I went to our chorus president and asked what was going on, who replied that the Broadway concert had indeed been cancelled. He forwarded me the email, which as it turns out I still had in my files anyway.
Oops.
So, no audition was necessary since no show would occur. Yet I still had the video, and it wasn’t too bad for something shot in solitude. I put the video on YouTube, which is where you’re seeing it now. If there’s any moral to this story, it’s that you should always listen to your conductor and chorus members – at least 99.5% of the time.
Kudos also goes to two members of our subgroup, Cascade, who performed a wonderful duet of this song last winter. If the video ever becomes available, I’ll include it here.
This year marked the 40th anniversary of the Portland Gay Men’s Chorus. At the beginning of the pandemic, we were all set to perform our 40th anniversary concert when the lockdown started. Our concert was first postponed to August, then cancelled when it became clear that finding an appropriate venue would be problematic at best, even assuming the virus had cleared up enough by then to allow large enough gatherings to allow us to perform our show.
Because of this, our new Artistic Director Johnny Atorino and Mary McCarty, our associate conductor as well as conductor of the Portland Lesbian Choir, have put together the first of what I hope will be more videos celebrating Virtual Pride and using songs from our aborted concert. The three songs on this video are “We Shall Overcome” (conducted by Bob Mensel), “Grazing in the Grass” performed by Cascade, and finally a combination of past and present members of the chorus performing “I Sing the Body Electric.” I hope you enjoy it.
Some of you have read my About section in which I describe a bit of my background and the purpose of this blog. The video below could be considered a continuation of that story.
In November 2018, Bob Mensel, our then-Artistic Chair of the Portland Gay Men’s Chorus, emailed me asking me if I wanted to share my story in an upcoming concert entitled “Our Audacity to Hope.” In the concert, we would represent nine different minority groups through songs as well as short videos created for the event. I was asked to represent the disabled community. In summary, I was to write a 400-word letter of my life on growing up with Moebius syndrome which would then be narrated by me in the video. I also sent in photos of myself at different ages highlighting key periods of my life. Both of these would be utilized to make an approximately three-minute video to be shown at the concert.
Perhaps the biggest incentive that Bob gave me was that I would sing a solo right after the video ended, namely, the song “This Is Me” from the movie The Greatest Showman. I gladly said yes, both for the opportunity to sing such a wonderful song but also for the chance to tell my story. Too often, people with disabilities are shamed into not speaking up or stigmatized into believing that their stories don’t matter. I felt that sharing my story would inspire others to do the same.
In addition to Bob Mensel, I also want to also thank Tim Liszt and David Sims for their incredible work in creating the videos. It’s not easy putting together a synopsis of your life that can be shown in a three-minute video, believe me, and they did a masterful job with it. Big kudos should also be given to Vikram, Sue, Damon, and Gus for telling their stories and sharing their perspectives during our concert, “Our Audacity to Hope.”
I’ve included the text of the letter below for clarity in case parts of my speech are harder to understand than others. Enjoy the video!
Dear Friends:
There are times when posing for a picture that the photographer will ask, “David, why aren’t you smiling?” Let me take a moment to answer that question.
Shortly after I was born, it was discovered that I had a rare neurological disorder called Moebius syndrome. Essentially, the cranial nerves that control facial and eye movement did not connect properly, leaving me with a bilateral facial paralysis, which included partial paralysis of my tongue. In addition, I had clubbed feet and a lazy eye — both of which were corrected early on.
While living with multiple physical disabilities from an early age was daunting enough, living with people’s perceptionsof what I had was probably the worst aspect of having Moebius syndrome. I was subject to considerable bullying, particularly because of the pronounced speech impediment that I still have today. It was not uncommon for people to believe that I was stupid or incompetent, despite ample evidence to the contrary.
I was quite fortunate, however, to have a solid network of family and friends. I grew up with two mothers, which made coming out as a gay man a lot easier. I was always encouraged in my academic pursuits, and I went to college twice, first earning an English degree with a minor in psychology from the University of Oregon, and later an associate’s degree in medical transcription from Mt. Hood Community College. But the accomplishment of which I’m most proud is that I have celebrated over 30 years of volunteerism and advocacy in the LGBTQ and other communities, which continues to the present day.
I’ve never felt that my disability is a good indicator of my intelligence, talents, skills, or abilities. In fact, I believe that the measure of one’s worth can be found in one’s accomplishments, not merely in how a person copes with their disabilities. When telling people about my disability, I’ve also found that a healthy dose of self-deprecating humor is really the best way to break the ice. For example, I often mention that I have three advantages because of Moebius syndrome: I have a great poker face, I will never get any wrinkles, and my disability actually keeps the haters away. Keeping the humor intact while leading with my strengths has been the surest way for me to be successful in my life as a person.
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